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Thursday, September 23, 2010

Birds of a Feather...Should Writers Date Other Writers?

It's a commonly held belief that opposites attract.
Oftentimes these notable differences are obvious even to us when we encounter lovebirds in public.
You know...

The 6ft. fella' with a mate who looks like a midget while walking hand in hand in the park.
The couple at a cocktail party where the woman is extremely outgoing while her husband is an apparent introvert.

A thin man with a full-figured female.
The list goes on and on.

But how about birds of a feather?
I'm a firm believer that sometimes commonalities provide a concrete foundation for relationship success.

Which brings me to today's $64,000.00 question...
Do creative individuals make better matches?

Is the bonding better when a writer dates another writer, or a musician, or an artist?
Do you dig dating someone who “gets” you and your lifestyle? Or does it breed competition?
Or do you perhaps feel that it really doesn't make a difference in the world of “Mars” and “Venus”?

As we head into the romantic fall season, I'd love to hear your thoughts on dating and mating in the creative world. "A penny for your thoughts..."

Image Credit: Liz Noffsinger


  1. I think there are advantages -- but also possible pitfalls. The advantages are that the other person understands what you do and appreciates what you go through. The pitfall can be if you're competing for the same markets. However, I'd say that, as long as you're not in direct competition, the understanding and appreciation bred of common "battles" and interests could make a potentially strong bond. Think of Robert and Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Of course, if you can create the kind of working relationship where each of you pursues different aspects of a similar range of interests, or if you know how to collaborate well, then I think that just draws you closer.

    I suspect, however, that as in any relationships, the extent to which it works depends largely on how much work you put into making it work.

  2. Jennifer Brown BanksSeptember 23, 2010 at 9:52 AM

    Wow, good feedback! I suppose that's a good point---it depends greatly on how much you put in to it. I love your reference about the Brownings.

    Thanks for stopping by and weighing in, Cynthia, :-)

  3. This is a good question. I have never dated another creative so I don't know. All I know is I need someone who can listen, provide constructive feedback and encourage me to move forward in what I do because that's what I do.

    However, I can't say that it would be a totally bad thing because we all have different interests and we can just bounce ideas off of each other.

  4. Jennifer Brown BanksSeptember 23, 2010 at 10:43 AM


    Good food for thought. Thanks for sharing it here!

  5. Your significant other should complement your personality. Kind of like an accessory. :) While my husband and I think a lot alike on issues like politics, finances, family values and such, we differ quite a bit in personality. He’s the E.F. Hutton type and I’m more Katie Couric.

  6. Jennifer Brown BanksSeptember 23, 2010 at 7:21 PM

    Interesting perspective, Nikola. Or should I say Katie? :-)

    Appreciate the feedback...

  7. Congratulations! That's wonderful.

    I love your list. I'd say I'm right there with you on every single one of them. So much to be thankful for.

  8. Jennifer Brown BanksSeptember 25, 2010 at 3:11 PM

    Hi Julie,

    How true. I appreciate your thoughts today.