"Required reading" for today's smart writer.

"Required reading" for today's smart writer.
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Saturday, October 27, 2012

Retreating to Write*Guest Post By Author, Coach & Counselor, Noelle Sterne


What writer hasn’t drooled over the thought of getting away to write for a whole day, week, or month—even an hour? My best fantasy is a cozy private cottage nestled in the mountains of upstate New York.
I sit at the knotty pine desk by the picture window, laptop purring, the splendid view prompting ever more creative flights, with only a silent padded server setting mealtime trays outside the door.

Few of us, though, with ever-increasing obligations, spoken-for finances, and multi-roles incessantly demanding attention and time, can afford our ultimate retreat dream. But we can reach it with some innovative and economical mini-retreats.

Listen for Your Preferences

First, though, recognize your preferences. One experienced writer was sure he’d put in twelve writing hours at a formal retreat, but he could only work four hours a day.

Do you crave absolute quiet? Or go bonkers without at least a few human voices? Do you need workshops and assignments, physical activities, introspective lectures, writers’ gossip fests, yoga classes, the bustle of people nearby, pizza or sushi in town?

Cafes and Restaurants

Cafés and restaurants remain the time-honored writers’ haunts (J.K. Rowling, Natalie Goldberg, Hemingway). See Juliet C. Obodo’s books on best cafés and “café etiquette” for writers in major cities (www.writersretreatcityguides.com).

When I lived in New York, I luxuriated in glorious writing sessions at a little café with delectable homemade Hungarian pastries, located near the Cathedral of St. John the Divine. The “Hungarian” always hosted a mix of passionate and unruly-haired students from Columbia University, young mothers with baby buggies stuck in a corner while they furtively grabbed a cuppa and a chocolate fix before the next diaper change, and would-be dedicated writers like me.

I learned to stretch one mug of coffee for hours and project insulated solitude—bookbag propped on two chairs, notebook pointedly open, and chronic scowl—so no one would sit down, start a conversation, or try to pick me up. But I thrived on the humanity around me and wrote regularly in the Hungarian.

Get a Room

“Borrow” a study, guest room, or patio from a friend, relative, or neighbor for an afternoon or day. Explain your purpose and assure them they don’t have to entertain or feed you or check in at discreet intervals. Offer something in return—babysitting, a home-cooked meal, dog-walking. Once I exchanged writing sessions at a neighbor’s living room desk, overlooking the Hudson River, for watering her plants. She always left me coffee and supportive little notes.

Check Into a Hotel

Not literally. Nice hotels have great lobbies, and with your briefcase, papers, and laptop, you’ll look like you’ve just arrived for an important meeting. You have—with yourself. Settle into a cozy alcove or a corner table in the bar. Order something modest and non-mind-numbing. One writer became such a fixture that when the bartender saw her coming he set out a big bowl of pretzels and served her with a smile.

Check Out the Library

Despite our ability today to research anything in the universe from our cozy computers, real public libraries are still treasures. Creating the riddles for my children’s book Tyrannosaurus Wrecks: A Book of Dinosaur Riddles, I rediscovered the wonderful children’s section. The young people’s encyclopedias had easy-to-understand texts (I wasn’t a dinosaur major in college), and I sat for hours gathering information and watched parents help their kids choose real books.

Explore your local college and university libraries. Studious in atmosphere, with their beckoning cubbyholes and semi-private tables they promote serious writing. A writer-graduate student friend discovered small charming libraries in his school’s music and architecture departments. Alumni or resident cards are generally available for small annual fees.

Hit the Beach, Park in the Park

In good weather, try beachfronts and parks. Pack a blanket or folding chair, and take a thermos of a comforting drink. One writer reported producing great work sitting in a park propped against a tree trunk, laptop on his knees, latté at his elbow, and birds chirping encouragement.

Go to the Mall

The local mall can be an oasis (stash your credit cards at home). In my neighborhood, a Starbucks reigns in the center courtyard with a high, light atrium. The management thoughtfully arranged café-like tables and chairs, and I regularly work at a table, enjoying the background din and discouraging visitors (see Hungarian above).

You never know where a mall session can lead. Another writer shared a Starbucks table with the man who became his historical novel researcher. My mall writing sessions evolved into my Absolute Write column, “The Starbucks Chronicles.”

Rent a Room

Rent a motel room for the day (alone). Yes, this costs something, but weekday rates are the lowest offered. Bring a big bag of indulgent snacks and hang out the “Do Not Disturb” sign. Just make sure the room doesn’t look out over the interstate. And turn the TV to the wall.

Save to Splurge

If you want a real getaway, save up for that divine week in Provincetown, Big Sur, the Greek Isles, or the magnificent cruise to Maui. Such retreats can give you much-needed respite from daily duties and refill your writing well of inspiration and purpose.

Home is Where the Start Is

Sometimes, though, the best retreat is no retreat. Our nests can be supremely soothing. Put on your cottons—or a crisp professional shirt. Choose a favorite room or spot. It’s sacred to you.

Hide all electronic lures and firmly announce your retreat to your household. Prepare your favorite food and drink in advance or order in. Decide on the project you’ll work on. Congratulate yourself for not having to pack, make complicated advance arrangements, or spending thousands on a “writer’s retreat.”

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Writer’s retreats are all around us, waiting only for our ingenuity and current projects. So award yourself, knowing you can “retreat” anytime and anywhere you choose.


Your turn, readers. Thoughts? Any of these ideas appeal to you? Which would be your favorite?

BIO:
Author, editor, ghostwriter, writing coach, and spiritual counselor, Noelle visits many of the writer’s retreats she describes in this column. They have helped her publish over 250 fiction and nonfiction pieces in print and online venues. With a Ph.D. from Columbia University, for over 28 years Noelle has guided doctoral candidates to completion of their dissertations. Based on this work, her latest project-in-progress is a practical-psychological-spiritual handbook, Grad U: Complete Your Dissertation—Finally—and Ease the Trip for Yourself and Everyone Who Has to Live With You. In her current book, Trust Your Life: Forgive Yourself and Go After Your Dreams (Unity Books), Noelle draws examples from her practice and other aspects of life to help writers and others release regrets, relabel their past, and reach their lifelong yearnings. Visit Noelle at http://www.trustyourlifenow.com/


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Note: A similar version of this post appeared in the "Bloom" Column at the Coffeehouse Blog.






 

16 comments:

  1. Jennifer Brown BanksOctober 27, 2012 at 8:45 AM

    A special thanks to Dr. Noelle for her "encore" performance here today. :-)

    Of those mentioned, my favorite "retreats" would be quiet time at home, and also local coffeehouses.
    I should mention too, that my library card is as important to me as many people's credit cards, (which says a lot about the frequency of my visits there). :-)

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  2. Jen--Glad to share retreat ideas with writers. We are unlimited in our creativity (airport lounge, subway, inside a car at the carwash). I'd like to hear of other writers' retreats.

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  3. 'Thanks for sharing
    so many great appealing ideas.'


    One of the posts on my blog that made it into the Most Popular List is actually a post titled: 'Writer's Workspaces that Inspire', and as you can read in that post, one of my favorite places to write is the 'Sea Office' onboard of my Mega Yacht.

    Euh...., ahum...,

    Only since I currently don't (yet) have a Mega Yacht, for that you first need to buy lot's of Products that I (pre) sell on my Blog(s) with doing
    Affiliate Marketing.

    Btw. when you want to find out more about how with Blogging & Affiliate Marketing you can (pre) sell products on your own Blog by simply writing about Products & Services (that you might enjoy using yourself anyway), feel free to have a look at my Blog.

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  4. Jennifer Brown BanksOctober 29, 2012 at 7:28 AM

    H.P.,

    Thanks for these morsels you provide here. Good food for thought. :-) I was about to say, (before I read your explanation later on), that if you do have a "mega-yacht" I definitely need to find out the secrets to your blog's success! lol
    Have a great week ahead.

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  5. H.P.--

    With Jennifer, I thank you for your info. Until the megayacht (or even a jetski) materializes, how about settling in at the marina? Picturesque, soothing water to gaze at, and some owner could invite you in for a drink. You could offer to yacht-sit while the owner goes to dinner, and you have another writing retreat.

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    1. Interesting idea to gaze at soothing water, the Cover Photo of the tiny little eBook I wrote actually is that of sunlight reflection in Soothing Water.

      And today on the Short Story page of my blog, I actually did put up an image of a 'Soothing Water Spa', with some info about - Relaxing -, and a book about 'Zen in the Art of Writing' by Ray Bradbury.

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  6. Actually I currently do already have an actual two engine Motor Yacht, only it isn't a - Mega- yacht, it happens to be a Remote Controled Scale Model. (Seriously I bought it out of my first ebook sales :))

    Only I just looked at the stats, and on several of my blogs I do see pretty strong growth, so chances are that I can 'Scale-Up' in the near future.

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  7. Jennifer thank you for inviting Noelle to share these tips with writers. I always think that the beach will be the place where I write, but it is home when it is absolutely quiet and I have a mug of flavored tea to sip, that I produce the most. Although the hotel suggestion sounds like something I could do. I am a people watcher.

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  8. Jennifer Brown BanksOctober 31, 2012 at 5:49 AM

    Linda,

    I think that all "good writers" are people watchers. LOL
    I agree; some of the best writing "retreats" I've had were enjoyed within the confines of home--especially during the fall season. Wouldn't you say? Thanks for your valued input. :-)

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  9. As of now, I've tried all the free options. I love the coffee shop and bookstore. I've been researching retreats, but I think I might try renting a room or hotel suite, since those don't require me to send in an application or be accepted by a committee.

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  10. Jennifer Brown BanksOctober 31, 2012 at 9:23 AM

    Sarah,

    Good to hear from you today. This sounds like a plan! If you try it, I'd love to have you write a guest post on your experience here at Pen and Prosper. P.S. I loved your guest post @ PRO BLOGGER on SEO Writing.

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    1. Thanks Jennifer! I'll definitely share my experiences if I manage to do a writing getaway.

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  11. Linda,Sarah, and Jennifer--

    Appreciate your input and intentions to branch out in your retreats. Must confess I love "home" too. Sometimes for a writing session I change clothes to a neater, crisper professional outfit and put on (more) makeup. Amazing how these moves change the feel, atmosphere, and outlook. Clothes don't exactly make the writer but they help get and keep well-tailored butt in chair.

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  12. For all the people who claim they don't have time to write, I always encourage those few minutes of bathroom time to jot down a few ideas. It may sound odd but sometimes that's the only retreat they have.

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  13. Jennifer Brown BanksNovember 7, 2012 at 6:37 PM

    Interesting point, Marcie. Thanks for sharing it!

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  14. Marcie--Very good idea. We can also keep a small notebook and pen nestled among the magazines. Appreciate your input.

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