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Saturday, June 30, 2012

Birthday Blessings, Lessons and Reflections...

In a society obsessed with youth, beauty and image, many of us have mixed sentiments about adding another year to Father Time’s tally.

On one hand, there’s the undeniable toll that aging can take on one’s body: sore joints, crow’s foot, gravity issues…well, you get my point. :-)

On the other, is the indisputable reality that each year… each day, is a blessing.
We have constant reminders of this as we witness lives abbreviated in their prime.
The deaths of people like Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson, and Heavy D, serve as sobering reminders.

Still, there is cause for pause and celebration!
Upon reflection, there are some things that truly get better with age.
One is that the older we become, the greater the likelihood that we will have learned more, and been “schooled” through “hard knocks “ lessons and refresher courses.
Thereby causing us to become wiser and better decision makers.
And some might even add, stronger.

Not to mention, more years typically translate into more richness in experiences and memories.
Wouldn’t you agree?

To give you an example, I was so touched by all the FaceBook comments posted on my wall from new “friends”, and was even tickled pink to get phone calls and emails from folks who were my classmates and friends back from 8th grade! They remember and honor my birthday decades later. Awesome!

As such, here are a few other life’s lessons I’ll share, as I celebrate and embrace another year.
Maybe these thoughts and philosophies will inspire an essay, poem, or blog post to fuel your own writing.



1. Everybody that’s in your life ain’t necessarily “in your corner”. As the Bible tells us, “Guard your heart.”

2. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. In other words, don’t carry grudges; they’ll mess up your “spiritual posture.” And many times it doesn’t even affect the intended party.

3. Kindness is never wasted.

4. Possessions don’t determine one’s worth.

5. You are judged by the company you keep.

6. Those who gossip with you will gossip about you.

7. When others doubt you, know that God knows your heart.

8. There is a blessing in each day.

9. There is a “message” in your mess.

10. Humor heals.

11. Hurt people hurt people!

12. True beauty is skin deep.

13. Give folks their “flowers” while they’re living.

14. Never make any man, (or a woman) a priority who views you merely as an option.

15. Be true to thineself.

16. The best revenge truly is a good life.

17. God will fix it.

18. When possible, “take the high road“.; there‘s less traffic. :-)

19. If you're not a part of the solution, don't be a part of the problem.

20. Good writing is a form of ministry.

21. While it's true that money won't buy happiness, financial security goes a long way towards having peace of mind and a good quality of life.

Well, that’s it, good people.

Would love to have your thoughts in return.

What lesson has another year taught you? Agree with any of these?

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  1. Jennifer Brown BanksJune 30, 2012 at 9:44 AM

    I forgot to add another one. For proper perspective, count your blessings, not your candles. :-)

  2. Happy Birthday, Jen! Hope you had a good one...

    This is a great list. I'll add one more life lesson to the above list. I've learned that it's best to forgive, but adapt from the lesson. If that means forgiving the offender but investing my time more wisely in other friendships or acquaintances, then so be it. That has worked for me. :-)

    Hope you are doing great!

  3. Thanks, Janette,

    It was wonderful--filled with abundant blessings.
    Thanks so much for providing feedback, and for your loyal support. :-)

  4. This is a wonderful list, Jennifer. I like the one you added in the comments, too. A friend, who authored curriculum guides for homeschool parents, used the motto "Living is Learning". It truly is. Wishing you blessings galore for the years to come!

    Happy 4th of July!

    1. Jennifer Brown BanksJuly 2, 2012 at 9:05 AM


      Indeed that's a good motto to adopt. Thanks so much for your thoughts and your kind words.

  5. Congratulations,
    and - Wow - that's a pretty big list, Jennifer.

    There definitely are some great ones in there. One of the lessons I learned is about also frequently keeping an Open Mind, because - although there indeed is a great likelihood that we will have learned more - 'the other side of the medal' can be a danger that we become less Open with more Unquestioned Asumptions.

    1. Jennifer Brown BanksJuly 2, 2012 at 9:11 AM


      We're on the same page when it comes to valuing an open mind. Thanks for adding to the mix here.

  6. Happy belated birthday, Jennifer. Hope you enjoyed your day. Thanks for sharing these rules for living with us. I also like "treat others how you would like to be treated", and "Godliness with contentment is great gain".

    1. Jennifer Brown BanksJuly 3, 2012 at 7:34 PM


      Thanks so much. It's always a pleasure to hear from you.

  7. I hope you had a great birthday. Those are great life lessons. The one that stood out for me is taking the high road. It is sometimes lonely because it is less traveled, and there are few footprints to guide you along the way. This is a lot of work, but there are great rewards. And it's great to know that God will fix it.

    Again, happy birthday and blessings on many more.

    1. Jennifer Brown BanksJuly 3, 2012 at 7:40 PM


      How true--taking the high road has great rewards. Much appreciation for your time and perspective.