Ah, young love! Whether it’s relational or creative, the beginning is always magical.
You know the script:
You’re geeked about spending time with the object of your affection--be it a soul mate, or fans of your work. You cherish the time you spend together. They make you feel special. They seem to "get you". The interaction is engaging.
But, weeks, months, maybe years into it, they don’t seem to show the same level of appreciation. You know they’re digging you, but the effort is not as great on either party’s part. The cute compliments are far and in between. Some days it may feel like an obligation, instead of a passion. “You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’.
Could it be that the honeymoon stage is over?
Don’t despair. And don’t call your mom. You can still salvage the relationship and have a happy ending, if you follow these tips to go the distance.
1. Keep a positive perspective. Truth is, every relationship goes through stages and tests. And your blogging experience will be no different. Sometimes you’ll receive rave reviews, and other times, well…let’s just say there will be a hush over the land. Don’t personalize it. Instead, remember what appealed to you in the beginning. And stick to it like Velcro.
2. Try something different. That’s right; what relationship isn’t enhanced by a little variety? For instance, if your posts are always short, make them long. If your tone is always serious, try a playful approach. If you typically do book reviews, try how-tos. If you post on Fridays, sneak in a Monday post. Never become boringly predictable. Change your “look” every once in a while.
3. Take a break. There’s great truth to the expression, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Spend time away regrouping and renewing your spirit. Time apart can lead to a greater level of interest and esteem. Try it, you might like it! Just make sure to give notice and give it a time limit.
4. Recognize that there's something to be said for a job well done. Even if nobody's saying it. Take satisfaction in your commitment to your craft, and your contributions to the blogosphere. And before you know it, and maybe when you least expect it,(if it was meant to be), one day you'll feel that magic again! :-)
What say you? How do you maintain your "mojo"?
Image Arvind Balaraman
