"Required reading" for today's smart writer.

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Friday, January 27, 2017

Feedback Friday-What Would You Like to See Here?



If there's one take-away that we can garner from the recent election, it's that when we fail to let our voices be heard, (through the political process and voting), we're left with someone else to decide what's important for us.  This leaves us at a great disadvantage.
In fact, with most things in life it's better to be proactive rather than reactive.

Your voice matters. One person can make a difference.
In this spirit, I'm opening up the floor to you, my readers.

2017 marks my 8th year of blogging. In this time, I've shared (according to Google Analytics) approximately 700 posts on an array of topics. Everything from marketing tips, to motivational quotes, to recommended resources, to book reviews, to interviews with experts.

My goal here is to be a resource for writers of all levels and genres, and to support you in your writing journey.

MOVING FORWARD...

Moving forward, I'd like to learn more about you and your creative needs. To get your specific, thoughtful feedback on topics and issues that matter the most to you.

This inquiring mind wants to know... 


1. What topics do you enjoy the most here?
 
2. What haven't I covered, that you think I should?
 
3. Do you prefer long or short posts?
 
4. What's the most valuable thing you've learned here?
 
5. What day do you typically read this site?
 
6. How does Pen & Prosper differ from other writing blogs you enjoy?
 
7. Are there any barriers to commenting on posts?
 
8. What do you like the most about this blog?
 
9. What do you like the least?
 
10. How do you feel about the periodic music videos shared?

11. What's your biggest freelancing frustration?
 
 
 
Caring is sharing. I'd love to get your feedback and suggestions. Choose any questions you'd like to answer.

Let's take 2017 to new levels through building better communication and a stronger blog community.
 

Together we can grow...



Jen's Spa Garden


 
A penny for your thoughts?

 



Image credits: https://Pixabay.com


  

Monday, January 23, 2017

6 Ways to Get More From Your Mondays!

 
 
For many people, Mondays are as dreaded as a root canal at the dentist. It represents the beginning of a chaotic work week, countless demands, and more of what they don't want. Sound familiar?
 
The lyrics to a popular song of former decades even supports this. "Rainy days and Mondays always get me down."
But, it doesn't have to be this way. And for optimal mental health and a progressive writing career, it shouldn't. 
 

Here are a few reasons you need to retrain your brain regarding Mondays...

  • Mondays often set the tone for the rest of the week. A positive perspective can contribute to a more productive and peaceful start and needed momentum to build upon.
  • There's no getting around them, folks. They come every week, like clockwork.
  • Many national holidays are often honored on Mondays. Accordingly, they give us much needed time off from work; so they're not all bad. Right? 
For your edification, here is the science behind Monday dread, courtesy of Mental Floss:



Now that we've looked at why it behooves us to approach Mondays with a good attitude and positivity, here are a few practices and principles to observe and apply.  
 
1. Get more organized.
A contributing factor to the stress of "Manic Mondays" is feeling overwhelmed and unprepared.
Why not flip the script? Instead of reacting to the things that come your way, take better control.
Begin with a "to-do" list and a strategic plan for how you will spend your day. Go even further-- have a "plan B" as well.
 
2. Schedule something you enjoy, so you have something to look forward to. 
This might include working on a passion project, or indulging in a weekly spa day, or having a brainstorming lunch with a writer friend.
 
3. Write and publish a blog post.
Many times the interaction and positive feedback from readers' comments on a fresh post can make a bad day better. Trust me on this one.
 
4. Go ahead and tackle the tough stuff first.
Do what you need to do, so there's more time to do the things you WANT to do.
 
5. Visit your favorite blogs and websites.
Doing so will inspire you and remind you of how great it is to be a part of such a talented and groovy community.
 
6. Instead of counting your worries, count your blessings.
Last year we lost so many talented athletes, entertainers and singers. People like Prince, Debbie Reynolds, Carrie Fisher...which serves as a constant reminder that each day should be treasured and embraced. We can't afford to take anything for granted. 
 
These are just a few suggestions to help you meet your Mondays with greater enthusiasm, hope and acceptance. A little chocolate doesn't hurt either. :-)
 
Here's wishing you a terrific Monday, readers...and many more! 
 
Comments? Anything you'd like to suggest here?
 
 
Image credit: https://Pixabay.com/
 

 

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Bouncing Back From Rejection-Michael Alvear






I’ve been making a living as a writer for about 14 years and have experienced just about every kind of rejection imaginable—as a freelance writer/consultant, I got stiffed for payments owed; as a newbie, I couldn’t get an agent, let alone a publisher; as a published author my last book tanked so bad, I was advised to write under a different name for my next one; as a “new author” (ha!) I was about to have my breakout moment on a national afternoon TV show when I was suddenly and unceremoniously cancelled.
 
There hasn’t been a single stage in my writing career where I thought with confidence, “Whew, I made it.” Even when it looked—from the outside—like I was doing well, I was always just one more rejection away from slamming my computer shut and walking away for good.
 
MANAGING FRUSTRATIONS...
After a number of big setbacks, I knew I had to learn to manage the constant frustration and fear that dogged me as a writer. I began studying what psychologists and experts said about building resiliency and applied them to the writing life. The changes were subtle but strong—I no longer felt like an abject failure when a client passed me over for a project or my book sales fell flat.


I detailed the practices that have worked best for my writing friends and me in The Bullet Proof Writer: How to Overcome Constant Rejection to Become an Unstoppable Author. My favorite techniques are the ones that either made me laugh, or seemed so counter-intuitive, I couldn’t believe they worked—until they did.

 
PRINCIPLES AND PRACTICES...
For example, I laughed with both recognition and relief the first time I came across a study by a psychologist studying resiliency that advised to “never think positive.”

 
Thank you! I’d always bristled at being told to pretend something is good or positive when it’s clearly not. And there it was: study after study showed that using positive thinking as a way to move past emotional setbacks actually makes things worse. That’s partly because it prevents you from processing natural feelings of anger and grief, which in turn, leave you more centered. Instead, experts recommend learning how to “drain” away the value judgments that keep you spinning in despair and hopelessness.

 
On the “wait, how could this possibly work?” side, the use of “counterfactual reasoning” surprised me the most for its sheer power and effectiveness. It’s a technique for practicing gratitude that shows you how to view your situation in unexpected ways—to “unadapt” your habitual ways of thinking so that you can truly be grateful for what you have.

THE ROLE OF GRATITUDE...
Gratitude is an important aspect of a rejection coping strategy because it focuses your mind on the good not the bad. The problem is that it often doesn’t work. At least not the typical way we practice it. That’s not just my opinion; it’s the conclusion of many studies on using gratitude to improve mood.

Fortunately, some researchers hit on a particular method for practicing gratitude—counterfactual reasoning—that shows great results in the lab.

Here’s the basic premise: Instead of being grateful for the good you have, spend a few minutes pretending you never received that good. For example, if you feel rejected that Publisher’s Weekly gave you a good but not STARRED review (a common feeling of rejection that best sellers experience) then spend a few minutes visualizing what would happen if PW never reviewed your book in the first place. That pull-out quote in PW that your editor put on the cover of your book? POOF! Gone! The congratulatory emails and phone calls? POOF! Gone!

Suddenly, you become far more grateful for the good that you have (a solid review from PW) than the rejection you perceived (an unstarred one).

There’s not a day that goes by where I don’t have to employ one or more of the techniques outlined in The Bulletproof Writer. The nature of the business means I’m always looking over the edge of the cliff. I like to think of the book as the harness, rope, and clips that keep me from spinning off into the abyss, even when both my feet slip on the crags. 

I encourage you to develop your own personal brand of coping as it can mean the difference between success and failure. Check out some of the ones I found particularly powerful: Alex Lickerman’s The Undefeated Mind, Rick Hanson’s Hardwiring Happiness and Guy Winch’s Emotional First Aid.

 
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BIO:
Michael Alvear is the author of The Bulletproof Writer: How To Overcome Constant Rejection To Become An Unstoppable Author (Woodpecker Media January 2017). LINK:
http://writingforaliving.us/how-to-overcome-constant-rejection/
He’s been a frequent contributor to National Public Radio’s All Things Considered and his work has appeared in Newsweek, The Washington Post, Reader’s Digest, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times and The Huffington Post.

Feel free to leave your comments and questions, readers.
 

 

 

Monday, January 16, 2017

Motivation Monday! Quotes to Move You Forward


It's the beginning of the week and the middle of the month. Do you know where your muse is? Is your year starting off with passion and promise? Are you maintaining your resolutions? Or are your goals getting lost in the day-to-day madness of it all?

Well, today's post will hopefully encourage, inspire and enlighten you as you ascend greater heights this month, this year, in your writing journey.

And I'd like to dedicate these thoughts on positive thinking and progress to a man who was the perfect embodiment of both: Dr. Martin Luther King, JR.

Enjoy!

QUOTES TO LIVE & WRITE BY...


"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
--Eleanor Roosevelt
 
" Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."
-- Martin Luther King
 
"A professional writer is an amateur who didn't quit."
--Richard Bach
 
"All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty."
--Proverbs 14:23
 

"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."
--Zig Ziglar

"Only you can control your future."
-- Dr. Seuss
 
 
"Take another bite of chocolate. It’ll help."
--Anna Marie Gire
 
"Successful people have big libraries. So read to succeed!"
--Shel Horowitz

 
"If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves."
--Thomas Edison
 
"It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice."
--John Templeton
 
 
Your turn.

Thoughts? Any favorites you'd like to add?
 
 
 
Image Credit: https://Pixabay.com

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

The 3R'S SERIES Delivers More Writers' Resources!



 

RECOMMENDED READS AROUND THE WEB


12 WAYS TO ORGANIZE YOUR BOOK IDEAS
http://writenonfictionnow.com/12-ways-to-organize-your-book-ideas-before-you-start-to-write/
HOW TO DEAL WITH BOOK BIGOTRY
http://www.writersandauthors.info/2016/12/how-to-handle-book-bigotry.html
 
MICHAEL HYATT’S TOP 5 BUSINESS BOOK LIKES
https://michaelhyatt.com/business-books-2016.html
 
15 SIGNS YOU’RE A WRITER
http://www.lifehack.org/287156/15-obvious-signs-that-you-are-writer
 
HOW TO ATTRACT QUALITY GUEST BLOGGERS
http://howtoblogabook.com/how-attract-quality-guest-bloggers/
HOW TO CREATE AN INSPIRING WORK SPACE

http://www.writersdigest.com/online-editor/create-inspiring-work-space-20
10 TIPS TO BETTER PROOFREADING

https://www.freelancewriting.com/copywriting/10-tips-better-proofreading/

 
RESOURCES
WRITING TOOLS TO HELP GET THE JOB DONE

http://blog.bookbaby.com/2014/07/killer-writing-tools-that-will-get-the-job-done/
 
SMART BRANDING TIPS FOR BUSY BLOGGERS
 
 
My new Ebook is just what you need to start the new year off with a bang!
 
Here's what it includes:
  •  How to brand your blog to increase your fan base and your bottom line
  • Branding profiles on successful celebrities like Martha Stewart and Steve Harvey, and what you can learn from them
  • How to avoid the social media "time sap" and market your blog "smarter, not harder"
  • 5 Mistakes you're making in branding your blog
  • And more!

If you like my blog, you'll love my books! They provide insider's tips not always revealed within weekly blog posts.
To order your copy today, send $3.99 to PayPal: Gemsjen@yahoo.com.
Same day processing.

REVIEW

 
THE BUTCH BAKERY COOKBOOK-By David Arrick/Janice Kollar 

Who doesn't dig cupcakes? But this sweet read is different. This cleverly crafted cookbook contains recipes from Butch Bakery that includes interesting ingredients and variations. 
You'll find sections on cupcakes infused with liquor; how to take quality shortcuts with pre-made cake mixes, and even cupcakes for couples. Additionally, there are blank sections devoted to taking notes, tips on tools to stock your kitchen, and the photography is simply gorgeous.   

 
That concludes this month's shares for the 3R's Series.
Feel free to share a comment.
 
 
Image Credits: https://Pixabay.com/
 
 


 


Friday, January 6, 2017

8 Tips to Maintain Your Blogging Appetite


AND YOUR SANITY!


Are you finding it hard to maintain your "mo-jo"? Has your taste for blogging turned bland? Is it difficult to keep up the pace? Running out of ideas and steam?
Then you'll definitely benefit from the tips provided in today's post.
Truth is, no matter how much we love it, blogging requires a little motivation and inspiration to go the distance. Wouldn't you agree?

With this in mind, I'd like to share my story, to help you continue to share yours.

IN THE BEGINNING....
I remember when I first began blogging many moons ago. Ah… it was magical. The excitement, the novelty, the interaction, was reminiscent of a romantic relationship.
It was a groovy kinda’ thing.
FAST FORWARD….
Seven years later and 700 blog posts down the pipeline, and I’ve got the "7 year itch".

That I'm hoping won't become the 7 year ditch.
There are days when I’m confused, restless, overwhelmed, and barren of useful, new ideas.

Don’t get me wrong; I still dig what we've got going on. I love the bonding experience of connecting with old friends and new readers. But, honestly, on some days when I’m slated to update my site, well...I feel like saying: “Not now, I have a headache.”
Romantic notions aside, it’s hard work, folks.
And I’m betting for many of you, the same situation holds true.



THE PLOT THICKENS…
Adding to the mix  is the fact that life can get in the way.
"Riddle me this."
How are we supposed to remain motivated with work woes? Health challenges? Family obligations? Money issues? Fierce competition? Relationship issues? Bad weather blues, and other obstacles that threaten to sap our energy and sabotage our efforts. Hello?

Here's the good news: we can and we must.


Accordingly, here are a few "tried and true" strategies you'll definitely want to consider to go from frustrated to fearless in 2017, (in no particular order). 





1. "Don't retreat, reload."--  Sarah Palin.

Sometimes when our traffic numbers are low and our bank accounts are at rock bottom, we feel uninspired, frazzled and frustrated. When this happens, it behooves us to remember why we started our journey in the first place. Maybe blogging was a way to share your love of cooking. Or to connect with people of different cultures. Or to entertain others through your unique sense of humor.
Has that changed? Perhaps a little soul searching and re-visiting past successes will rekindle the flames and re-ignite your passion. Try it and see where it takes you.

2. Choose a blog topic that you truly enjoy.

It's a common mistake I see being made by many bloggers. They launch a blog based upon a popular topic, or a trend, or a whim. Though they may have the best of intentions, it won't last.
The thing that keeps me going week after week, month after month, year after year, is the simple fact that writing is what turns me on. I live it. I sleep it. I eat it. I enjoy it.
Fun is a great motivator.

3. Choose a topic that you have a broad knowledge base in.

Aside from passion, wisdom and experience will help you go the distance and make it much easier to generate topics and content. There's great validity to one of the cardinal rules of writing, "Write what you know." Like Santa, you should make a list and check it twice.

4. Have a plan. And work it.

What is your purpose? How often will you post? Who will you target? How will you measure your success?
The clearer you are here, the easier it will be to "work smarter, not harder" and prevent
burn-out.

5. Get help.

Who says you have to do everything alone? Request and accept guest posters. Interview experts.
Seek ideas, inspiration and information from books on writing and blogging. One that I highly suggest is Marcie Hill's "62 Blog Posts to Overcome Blogger's Block." You can find additional ordering information here:   http://www.marciewrites.com/books
Every little bit helps. 




6. Don't be afraid to take a detour.

Okay, so maybe you started your blog based upon your love of birds, but the idea is not "flying." You lack the following you desire, rarely get comments, and you feel defeated. Don't stay stuck there; just re-evaluate and redirect your efforts. Don't let your ego get in the way of excellence.

7. Be realistic about your goals. 

For example, is it wise to post every day of the week if you have a 9 to 5 gig with kids?
Should you aim for 2000 word posts if they are not substantive and quality oriented?
If the longest commitment you have ever had is with your cell phone carrier, do you think that you will be able to remain faithful to followers and consistent in your updates long term?



8. Pause for the cause.

Build in periodic breaks to prevent a "break down." I personally take routine breaks around summer vacation, the Christmas season, or whenever my work schedule or health dictates that I really need one. You should too.


2017 has the potential of being your biggest year ever; but you'll never know if you quit too soon. Keep a positive perspective and keep these eight tips in mind, to go from frazzled to fearless!

Your turn.
Thoughts?  What do you plan to do differently in 2017 to reach new heights and old goals?
To stay on the blogging path? Do tell.
 
 
 
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Monday, January 2, 2017

Writer's Courage! How to Cultivate More in 2017





“Writing is easy. You just sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”
---Ernest Hemingway

Welcome, Readers!
Thanks so much for your continued support and readership, as we embark upon a new year full of promise and unlimited possibilities. I'm delighted to have you here. Whether you're an old fan or a new friend here, I value your time, feedback and interaction. It's a pleasure to connect with you and share my love of the written word and my desire to help you "learn more and earn more," at Pen & Prosper.

If you're on board, let's get busy with today's post. As always, I welcome your questions and comments. It helps us all to learn and grow. In the words of Clint Eastwood: "Go ahead and make my day." :-)
 

THE COURAGE TO BE A WRITER 


When most folks think about “bravery,” they typically associate it with careers like firefighters, police, or professionals that sacrifice their well-being through heroic efforts and life-saving rescue.
Which is true by standard definition. But those of us who carve a living from words know all too well how courageous this way of life is too. It’s not for the feint of heart.

In fact, truth be told, I never envisioned myself as a writer growing up.

Though I have always loved the act of writing creatively, I only pursued it professionally because my mom “guilted” me into it. I was afraid.
More on that story at another day and time…

 

LIVING OUR LIVES OUT LOUD…

Writing makes us vulnerable. Sharing our thoughts, experiences, family dysfunctions, inner-demons, mistakes, and neuroses leaves us as “exposed” as a hospital examination gown.

Writers must withstand judgment, criticism, controversy, rejection, and even “haters“.
And yet, we enter the proverbial “ring” each day and find the courage to battle doubt, slay personal fears, defeat procrastination and move forward.

Not to mention that many of us are introverts and have to contend with the awkwardness of sharing a certain “intimacy” and honesty in expressing ourselves in public arenas; if we are to make a real impact with readers.

MY EPIPHANY

A few weeks ago, I received my first book review (which is how this issue with courage initially manifested). When the email arrived in my inbox, I was afraid to open it. I was so nervous, I felt the need for a cigarette. And I don’t even smoke.

After reading it, I wasn’t quite sure how to feel; the review was both positive and negative. Would I submit to one again? Probably. And here’s why: as uncomfortable as it was to open myself and my work up to scrutiny, the review was helpful and insightful. No matter what the reviewer felt or thought, my ebook was STILL a career accomplishment. Good or bad, it represented a finished, marketable product and another “chapter” in my writing journey.

A PARADIGM SHIFT…

Writers, let’s face it: you’ll never receive a “Purple Badge of Honor” for your efforts, courage and resilience. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t feel empowered and proud, just the same. In fact, we don’t have to look to characters in the novels that we read to be inspired or to embrace it.
 

Celebrate the courage you show each time you:

  • Write and publish a blog post
  • Continue to blog without consistent comments from readers
  •  Survive a negative book review
  • Submit to a publisher who has rejected your work previously
  • Seek agent representation
  • Take a new class to develop your skills
  • Send out a pitch letter
  • Refuse to allow writer's block to put you in a state of panic
Courage is as necessary an ingredient to a writer’s career survival as food is to a chef.
Without it, there’s no growth, progress or gain.



So, if you’re good to go, here’s how to cultivate more of it in 2017:
Come out of your comfort zone. If you have always wanted to write a children’s book, or a memoir, or dabble in a different genre, go for it! Research. Read successful authors in your targeted category. Set goals. Make a game plan. As they say, “There’s no time like the present.”

Have the chutzpah to define success on your own terms.

Like Ralph Waldo Emerson did. It’s not always about bottom line figures or social media numbers; success can be about honoring your own personal truths, or overcoming obstacles.

Connect with other scribes by leaving comments on blogs you read, or via social media platforms you engage with weekly.

Don't be afraid of grammatical errors, language barriers, or being potentially embarrassed by mistakes.
We're not here to judge; we're not your English teacher.

Read. Explore. Print. Embrace.

The following quotes on courage:
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_courage.html

Take more calculated risks.

If you're writing part-time, for instance, determine what it would take to go full-time.
Apply for gigs you would not have in the past. Make this your year to take your efforts to the next level and advance your swagger!

Do you!
In other words, be yourself. Don't try to follow every fad, "expert" recommendation, or path navigated by other bloggers. Instead, learn from the best; but don't ignore your own inner-guidance, individual style, or personal goals.


"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them."
---Walt Disney

Happy New Year!

Your turn.
Be fearless. Leave a comment. :-)


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