6 Valuable Lessons Writer's Rejection Teaches Us!

 

　

Welcome back, readers! It's great to reconnect.
I hope you've had an awesome summer thus far. As for me?
I'll fill you in on mine in days ahead. For now, let's explore a topic that is important to writers of all levels and genres: rejection.  I'd love to get your feedback here later in the comments section.
Now, without further delay, on to today's topic...
　

Lessons can come in many forms. Like the ones that “inform” us by way of experience; or those we acquire through formal training; and even life lessons our mothers imparted to lessen the harsh blows of adulthood.

I’ve received a great deal of education through the “school of hard knocks” in my career as a writer. Unexpected lessons that have strengthened my resolve, helped to hone my craft and broadened my perspective.

Many of these lessons have resulted from dozens and dozens of rejections over a decade, from an array of publications and paths.
Let’s face it: rejection is a natural part of life, whether it stems from an editor, agent or former mate. It happens to the best of us. What matters most is how we deal with it.

Author Yuwanda Black shares in her “how-to”manual, The Ultimate Freelancer’s Guidebook: “Rejection is an inevitable part of freelancing. The sooner you train yourself to accept it and move on, the sooner you’ll be on the road to success.”

In the spirit of enlightenment, the “Rejection Revelations” I am providing here can help you as a fellow writer to shorten your learning curve; keep your wits about you; and hopefully inspire you to persevere, so you can continue to share your unique message with the world and get paid, (even during days of doubt).
Pencils ready?

These are the 6 most crucial lessons to heed from writer’s rejection (in no particular order):

REJECTION REVELATIONS

1. DON’T RETREAT, RELOAD!
In the words of Sarah Palin: “Don’t retreat, reload.” Here’s a case in point.
Many years ago I received a crushing rejection from an editor of a popular writers’ newsletter, on one of my submissions. Not only were this editor’s words harsh and extremely critical, they made me feel like I was back in high school English class. I was offended and embarrassed. After feeling sorry for myself, I had a change of heart. I decided to reject her rejection and send my article elsewhere! Much to my surprise, my piece was accepted immediately by another publication--without any revisions, with pay. The take-away? Believe in yourself. Keep going. Keep growing.

2. YOU’RE NOT ALONE.
It’s true. If you’re a “rejected” writer, (as I have been) you’re in good company. Many creative “greats” have been turned down countless times before they found ultimate success: consider Walt Disney, J.K. Rowling, Oprah Winfrey and Emily Dickinson. Here’s a compilation of other success stories to motivate you:
 https://thoughtcatalog.com/rachel-hodin/2013/10/35-famous-people-who-were-painfully-rejected-before-making-it-big/

3. DON’T BE BITTER, BE BETTER!
Although the initial reaction to rejection for many of us may be anger, denial or defensiveness, if we are receptive we can actually glean useful information that can enhance our future writing efforts. Take a step back. Exercise some objectivity and when possible, try to see things from the editor’s position. The more you learn the more you‘ll earn.

4. HUMOR HELPS.
A wise man once said: “If you can laugh through it, you can live through it.” Writing can be really intense and mentally taxing. Flip the script. Find the funny in that “evil editor,” or agent‘s snub, or creative mishap. Doing so can lead to a humorous personal essay or inspirational post to publish on your blog. As writers, no experience is ever truly wasted.

5. YOU WIN SOME, YOU LOSE SOME.
No matter how uncomfortable, rejection can teach us humility and resilience. This pushes us to work harder, reach new heights and build character. Even star athletes have losing seasons. Don’t let it take you out of the game.

6. STAY OPEN.
When our ideologies, ways of expression or methods become so fixed and rigid that we absolutely refuse to entertain the opinions and suggestions of editors, publishers or readers, we stunt our growth and compromise our potential.

　
IN CONCLUSION

Rejection doesn’t need to derail you on the path to publishing success. Follow these six timely tips, stay focused and keep believing in the power of your dreams.

　
YOUR TURN
　
Thoughts? Which lesson resonates most with you?

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